Being three years out of college, I’m at that point where all of my friends are getting married. Too bad I’m also at the point where my first marriage has ended, but whatevs. In any case, I’ve been immersed in wedding talk – invitations, dress fittings, vows… A lot of the chatter around me has been about how to have an alternative ceremony that doesn’t bend to the patriarchal traditions of such things as “giving the bride away.” I have friends who had a commitment ceremony instead of a legal wedding, I also have friends who had a Quaker ceremony (which was one of the most beautiful events I’ve had the honor of witnessing), and still another couple of friends had a song by the White Stripes (“We Are Gonna Be Friends”) as their processional.

So far, none of my friends have done this. Though I wouldn’t put it past any of them.